How do I become a man in a world that rejects manliness?
How to become a man is a question as old as mankind itself. It’s a subject we could (and many have) write books on. More pertinent today than perhaps any time within the past 100 years, this question burns in the hearts of so many young men. Particularly in a culture that increasingly accepts single mothers, how can a boy become a man when he has no father?
No male role models in his life? Without these boys turn to the one influence of masculinity they do have in their lives – TV. Hollywood (and now Netflix, Amazon, Disney, etc) has relentlessly poured garbage into the minds of young men for decades. In recent years we’ve also seen the rise of the phrase “toxic masculinity,” typically used to refer to behavior someone felt offended by, whether that behavior was masculine or not.
This is one of the grievous crimes, one of the worst hypocrisies, that has been committed upon us – we were raised to believe that a man acted a certain way, that he had certain traits. When we became that man and embodied those traits the same society that taught them to us now declares we are “toxic,” and “violent,” and “problematic.” Reject this. All of it. Reject the media’s illusory idols of manhood. Reject their false criticisms of who you are. Reject their commands to conform to their ever-changing standards and embrace your own beliefs and stand behind them. Manhood is about strength.
Not just physical but spiritual, mental, and emotional. Not in using that strength for cruelty, but to uphold your beliefs, to protect your families, and to defend your nation. A man is a role model for others, but is humble enough to know he too has others to look up to. He can work with others to build a better world, but is capable of standing alone against a corrupt one.
A man is one who buys the future with the sweat of his brow, rather than the handouts of welfare. He is one who can chart his own course, seek his own destiny, and stand against the dictates of tyranny. Remember this – a man chooses, a slave obeys.